Self-sabotage is a term used for the behavior of some people who unconsciously sabotage themselves by doing things that are not in their best interest and repeatedly do them again and again. It is generally the result of negative beliefs and the feeling of being powerless to do anything about them. It can also be a symptom of some other problems, such as depression, anxiety, or low self-esteem.
If you’re tired of waiting around to get things done, and you know you’re going to keep putting them off, these are the tips you need to stop wasting precious time.
How do you stop sabotaging yourself?
- Practice self–care and acceptance
Self-care, we all know, is important. It is something that we all should do every single day. However, in today’s world, we are all too busy going on with our lives drinking our coffee, doing our work, watching our favorite videos on YouTube, browsing our favorite sites, and many more. Many people sabotage themselves daily, whether by doing things in an unhealthy way or by not doing things that are important to them. These self–destructive behaviors can be: bad moods, poor eating behavior, poor sleeping habits, poor exercise, etc.
- Understand your apparent pointless decisions
Sometimes we make seemingly pointless decisions that don’t seem to make much sense. This can be at home, at work, or even in your personal life. Sometimes we are so conscientious that we feel that we are going to lose our soul if we make a seemingly insignificant decision. While it can be difficult to stop making these seemingly pointless decisions, knowing the reasons why we do them might help.
- Love gradual improvements
To make meaningful progress, we have to be clear about what is working and what is not. In other words, we have to keep a running tab of how our progress is going. For example, your progress in losing weight might best be measured by how you look in the mirror at the end of the day rather than by how much weight you’ve lost.
- Combat procrastination and avoidance
Procrastination is one of the biggest problems for people who try to schedule their life. We tend to put off difficult or boring tasks until the last moment. This can be very bad as it is likely to harm our personal or professional life. But why procrastinate? Sabotage is a phenomenon that can be defined as a long-range process, which consists of stopping the action you want to take instead of taking an action that is easier, less satisfying, and/or less desirable. It is important to learn strategies to combat, one of which is to try ‘last things first.’
- Develop your own set of rules in decision making
Often, we make poor decisions because of our own biases and mental barriers. In some cases, we get the results we want; in others, we don’t. Everyone deserves the chance to make good decisions, so it is important to set our own rules to help us stay on track toward a goal.
- Reduce your mental clutter
It’s easy to think of clutter as something you see, like a messy desk or cluttered garage. But clutter lurks in your mind too. It’s called “mental clutter,” and it’s far more dangerous than physical clutter. Like clutter, mental clutter may seem harmless at first, but it is crippling—and it can show up in the form of all kinds of self-sabotaging thoughts.
- Notice your thinking pattern
Did you know that you can tell a lot about a person by the way they think? We all have a thought process that we are more familiar with (or “habits”) in which we fall into a regular pattern of thinking—usually, one that is inaccurate and unhelpful. When someone is habitually negative, they are often viewing things in a way that is not reality, but instead a thought pattern that is negative or limiting. These thought patterns can be very strong and can cause a person to act out in unhealthy ways.
It is important to know how to recognize when you are sabotaging yourself. There are times when we act in ways that are not in our best interest and are not helpful to us. We do this to avoid pain or discomfort, but in doing so, we push ourselves further away from our goals. The good news is that we can spend less time sabotaging ourselves and more time reaching our goals.